Why the heck is my gut reaction no when it could so easily be yes? Answer, parenting is hard. It’s so easy to get trapped in the monotonous daily exhaustion that is our lives. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom, it’s the best thing in the world! Sometimes, I get tired and crabby and I yell and I say no to everything when I need to say yes. My 10 year old, Tyrus, has been begging us to make a trailor on iMovie for quite some time and my answer is always, maybe later buddy we have so much to do. Well, this weekend my better half, Ian, whispered to me that we should let Tyrus make his movie or trailor on the iPad. He reminded me that he’s been asking for a long time and we always have something going on that prevents us from doing it. I felt a twinge of mom guilt. Why had we been putting it off all this time? I knew it would be fun. And was it ever! Making the trailor was a blast. Tyrus is a great actor and director. We even sent it to his teacher to show the class and they loved it.
This morning was one of those mornings that my youngest, Cy, was stuck to me like a magnet. Ian was getting ready for work and hadn’t had time to make coffee. So, there I sat staring longingly at the empty coffee pot. Tyrus was eating his cereal and said “I can make it mom!” Once again, my first reaction was ,no, I’ll just do it in a minute. He told me how dad had shown him and he knew he could do it. My no turned to a YES! Tyrus did indeed make my coffee and it was wonderful watching him beam with pride.
I’m not a perfect parent and I never will be but, I have to try! Something so simple as saying yes any time I can will surely make a difference. I don’t know if Tyrus will remember making my coffee today, but I will never forget it.