Strong vs. Skinny…do I have to choose?

Do I have to pick whether I want to be strong or skinny? What does it even mean? Can’t I be both?

The fact of the matter is, I’m neither at the moment. Sigh. I am however, much stronger than I was even a week ago. I’ve also lost some body fat, not much, but some, baby steps! Until recently, I’ve had a difficult time choosing an end goal for myself in regards to my physical form. Obviously, I want to be healthy, energized and strong.

When I picture my “perfect” body it’s defined and lean and if I’m going to be honest, a little more on the skinny side. ? I know that’s not the most popular thing to be saying right now. I’ve seen a lot of slogans and ads with, Strong is the New Skinny. I do appreciate strength and what it means for women to be more focused on their strength rather than solely how skinny they can get at any cost. More than ever before it’s about empowerment and what our bodies are capable of instead of purely looks. Feeling like you’re powerful is intoxicating and becomes addictive for sure.

On one hand, I completely relate to focusing on strength instead of aesthetics. For weeks, I’ve been working on gaining full body strength and on back squat this week I did more than I have in a long, long time. I’m still pumped about it! ? It’s so exciting to see hard work and dedication paying off.

On the other hand, I see the chicks at the gym that seem to live on the elliptical, treadmill or stair stepper and I can’t help but compare myself. They’re typically what you would call skinny. Not much body fat and definitely not much muscle. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to anyone else, but I think we all do it even if we don’t mean to. No lie, part of me longs to look more like them. Then I snap out of it and I know spending hours on those machines could never bring me happiness. Even if it did bring me skinniness.

I think we can all get lost in the daily shuffle at times and that’s when doubt and self-sabotage tend to strike. My issues with bouncing between wanting to be strong one week and then wanting to be skinny the next has really stalled any chance of progress towards either of those destinations. My love muffin (Ian) and I have messed around with different “diets” in the past and calculated our own macros trying to get the results we desire with some luck, but, no lasting or sustainable results. About a month ago, we discovered Avatar Nutrition, they’re science based, flexible diet macro geniuses, basically ?. Go science!! 

It’s a super simple process to get started: enter your information, choose your own goal, follow the macros, then trust the system and enjoy the results. They adjust your specific needs based on your progress each week. I’ve chosen moderate fat loss as my goal. This setting should help me keep most of the muscle I’ve built while still allowing me to lose body fat.

My solution for feeling so torn is to trust Avatar Nutrition while mixing in a few more fat burning cardio sessions a week and keep lifting heavy weight. I know that my body will look how it should and this is how I’ll feel most powerful, happy and fulfilled.

If you’re struggling with any of these feelings here’s some tips that have helped me?

  1. First, take a look at what people you’re following via Instagram or any other social media platform you have. If they make you feel worse about yourself, it’s probably time to hit the unfollow button!
  2. On the flip side, search for groups or people to follow that motivate and inspire you and fit your goals with their words and experiences not solely physicality. Here’s just a few people I follow that really help me get in the right state of mind on my most difficult days: 







Also, I’m a member of an AWESOME group of women who inspire me every damn day on Facebook and one of their posts inspired me to write this blog post. It’s a private group and she wrote to us that someone had called her skinny, thinking it was a compliment. She was anything but happy about it. She wrote that she’s worked so hard to be strong and fit and that there was a time when she had tried so hard to be skinny and even starved herself to get there and now that was not her goal and that times have changed.

?I loved what she wrote and it made me think about the way I had been feeling and what it means to be strong. To me it means busting my ass in and out of the gym, even when I don’t feel like it. I feel strong when I eat enough and train hard.

For more info on the Facebook group I mentioned or Avatar Nutrition, shoot me a message!

Anyways, thanks for reading! ?

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